First, I want to say thanks to everyone who commented and wrote to me about sleep and the lack thereof. It really makes a difference to feel that we are not alone in this. In the middle of the night when doubts about my parenting and my baby’s development loom largest I remember that we are one among MANY going through this. There is no right answer.
My friend Kisha‘s husband Ben (they are new parents–CONGRATS GUYS!) wrote me to suggest that we give Sufyan a bottle for some feedings so that Faris could feed him and I could sleep. YES. This is a fantastic idea. And I want to support their flexibilty in parenting. My friend Liz and I call this “The Malcolm X School of Parenting: by any means necessary.” It has been so important for us to stay flexible and respond to needs as they come up rather than being dogmatic about our desire to be exclusively breastfeeding or exclusively co-sleeping or exclusively anything, really. I reject the idea that a mom going crazy with sleep dep and hurting her health (like me) should stick it out no matter what for the ideal of exclusively breastfeeding. So, props to Kisha and Ben for finding a way that keeps the family happy and healthy.
I would do the bottle thing at night for the sake of sleep. I would. But Sufyan refuses a bottle. It’s his decision to be exclusively breastfed–for now anyway.
4 months old today!